You don't understand. I can't explain.

Depression.

This something that I have wanted to talk about for a long time.

So let me start by telling you of a small conversation I had a little while back. Recently, someone I know remarked that if a person who is well established in life, doing better than her peers and is on a career path that is going upwards, shouldn’t have anything to be depressed about.

Now, here is what I have to say about it.

Depression doesn’t only hit those who have no money or job. Those are the most basic needs of a person.

There are quite a few popular theories of motivation like the Two factor Theory and Theory of Hierarchy of Needs, which clearly states that Money is the hygiene factor or our Physiological Need, which is a bare minimum that every individual needs to live a proper life. What really motivates us to put forth our best effort is when we get social acceptance and recognition.

It’s the same with Depression. Not everyone earning money or fame is necessarily happy. Not every smile that you see is genuine. There are high chances that the posts that you see on somebody’s Instagram profile are a way of filling up a void. Somebody might be surrounded by a crowd and still be lonely.

And no, it’s not a phase that will pass. Depressed people don’t always bring it on themselves. Even they want to be happy. They want to be able to actually have fun and not fake it. They hate the heavy weight that they carry. For once, they want to throw away the burden and feel normal.

But more often that not, they are misunderstood. Coming out as being depressed has become nearly as difficult as talking about one’s sexual orientation. People judge. People give you recommendations as to how you need to go out more and open up more and keep yourself busy. There are also few who don’t want to admit they are depressed. They drown themselves in alcohol and drugs to numb their feelings.

Just a small suggestion. Listen to your friends. Make them feel that they belong. Keep in touch. Ask about their work and personal life. I understand it is very difficult to find time from the packed schedule, but nevertheless, an unexpected phone call from an old friend works miracle. Just let them know, that you are there and you care. Believe me, it can make a difference and have a very big impact.